School head teacher Sam Proctor said his approach to Send provision changed after his own son was diagnosed with autism.
He said: “I was able to access a lot of services through private things and means to enable him to get the support he needs.
“That gave me even more determination to realise not everyone has those opportunities.
“We have to carve a way to best meet their needs.”
He said mainstream schools needed to “step up” and start being “much more inclusive”.
“Special schools are overwhelmed,” added Mr Proctor.
“I think it’s incredibly difficult to do what we’re doing for the long-term. The reality is, money is running out, good will is running out.”